Complex Trauma and Abuse Recovery Therapy in Plymouth
If you have ever been the victim of narcissistic abuse, you may have found yourself asking the following:
Why did they choose me?
Why did I stay so long?
Why didn't I recognize the signs in the beginning?
Survivors of pathological love relationships often share two key personality traits that made them more vulnerable—but also incredibly strong. Can you guess what they are?
Sources
“Personality Profiles of Women in Relationships Involving Men with Pathological Personality Features” By Brown, Sandra L., Young, Jennifer R., Samuel, Douglas B., Lucas, Katherine, & South, SC (2014)
The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction (et.al) and Purdue University-- The Personality and Psychopathology Lab.
Complex childhood trauma can often lead to prolonged periods of threat-scanning the emotions of others rather than turning inward to your own emotional experiences. While this can be a helpful survival strategy, it can also prevent us from moving through complicated emotions like grief, sadness, or anger. This can mean staying stuck in them for far longer than is ideal. Working with a therapist skilled in the language of emotional processing and the nuances of complex trauma responses can help you learn to balance your inward and outward focus and actually process and move through emotions in an effective, healthy way. If you notice that you struggle to gain closure from difficult events or feeling a general sense of confusion about why you are unhappy, this may be a sign that your childhood trauma is affecting you more than you realize.
If you are looking for a therapist in Plymouth, Michigan who specializes in complex trauma recovery and narcissistic abuse recovery, I’d love to discuss working with you!
jessica@indigonorthllc.com
(734) 386-0238
Schedule complex PTSD therapy on my calendar directly.
*Also serving Northville, Livonia, Canton, Novi, South Lyon, and other surrounding areas in Metro-Detroit.
Legal abuse is one of the most terrifying and damaging forms of control. It leaves victims feeling helpless, trapped, and overwhelmed. This isn’t just about laws—it’s about power and control, wielded to intimidate and harm. If you’re going through this, know you’re not alone. Finding a therapist and attorney who truly understand legal abuse can make all the difference in reclaiming your power and your peace. 💔
*I meant to say legal abuse is one of the most damaging forms of abuse at the end, not financial abuse (although that is certainly horrible as well!)
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Do you catch yourself over-explaining, trying to convince others of your intentions, or proving your worth? This is often a trauma response—a way to feel safe and avoid conflict—but it can leave you feeling drained and powerless.
Taking your power back means learning to let people be wrong about you. At first, it might feel deeply uncomfortable, but over time, it becomes a powerful act of self-trust and boundary-setting.
Working with a therapist who is knowledgeable about the effects of complex trauma can help you uncover the roots of these patterns and learn healthier ways to respond, so you can show up for yourself with confidence and peace. You deserve to live free from the need to constantly explain yourself.
Not all therapists are trained to understand the complexities of narcissistic abuse and relationships involving dark triad traits. Finding a therapist with a niche focus in this area can make all the difference in your healing journey. This specialized support helps you process your experiences, gain closure, and rebuild your confidence to move forward with clarity and strength. You deserve to work with someone who truly gets it—and who can guide you toward a brighter, healthier future.
jessica@indigonorthllc.com
(734) 386-0238
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When someone openly brags about manipulating others, they may think they’re demonstrating intelligence or social prowess, but what they’re really doing is revealing a deeply concerning mindset. Machiavellianism, one of the core Dark Triad traits, is defined by deceit, emotional detachment, and a willingness to exploit others for personal gain. It often coexists with narcissism and psychopathy, creating a dangerous mix of charm, manipulation, and lack of empathy. When someone treats manipulation as a skill to be admired rather than a toxic behavior to be examined, it signals a fundamental lack of integrity and an instrumental view of relationships—people are not seen as individuals with feelings but as tools to be used.
This type of behavior isn’t always as obvious as outright boasting, either. While some proudly advertise their manipulative tendencies, others take a more covert approach, using guilt, passive aggression, or calculated displays of helplessness to control those around them. These behaviors are especially common in individuals who fall under the umbrella of the Vulnerable Dark Triad—a combination of vulnerable narcissism, secondary psychopaty, and borderline personality traits. Instead of grandiosity, they may rely on self-victimization and emotional coercion to get what they want. Regardless of the presentation, if someone expects you to be impressed by their ability to deceive and control, take it as a warning. They’re showing you, in no uncertain terms, that they see relationships as a game—and that the people in their lives are nothing more than pawns.
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Leaving an abusive relationship is often seen as the finish line—the moment of freedom, the end of suffering. But for many survivors, the abuse doesn’t stop when the relationship ends. Instead, it evolves into something even more insidious: post-separation abuse. This form of ongoing control is devastating, yet it’s frequently overlooked by friends, family, and even professionals who assume that once a person leaves, they are finally safe.
Post-separation abuse can take many forms, including legal harassment, financial control, smear campaigns, coercive control through shared children, and continued emotional manipulation. An abuser who once relied on intimidation, gaslighting, and isolation during the relationship often shifts tactics after separation, using systems and external forces to maintain power. They may weaponize the court system with frivolous lawsuits, manipulate child custody arrangements, or use social influence to damage the survivor’s reputation.
What makes post-separation abuse especially painful is that it often happens in plain sight—yet remains invisible to those who don’t understand the dynamics of psychological abuse. A survivor may feel re-traumatized as they continue to navigate endless conflicts, defend themselves against false accusations, or struggle to regain financial stability after their abuser drains shared assets.
Breaking free from post-separation abuse requires more than just physical distance. It involves understanding the abuser’s tactics, setting firm boundaries, and finding support from professionals who truly recognize the depth of this experience. Therapists who specialize in psychological abuse can help survivors rebuild their sense of self, strengthen emotional resilience, and develop strategies to counter ongoing manipulation.
True freedom isn’t just about leaving—it’s about breaking the lingering chains of control. Survivors deserve not only to escape but to heal, thrive, and reclaim their lives on their own terms.
(734) 386-0238
While women are statistically more likely to be victims of abuse, it’s crucial to recognize that men can also experience abuse—and often, their experiences go unacknowledged. Social stigma, shame, and harmful stereotypes about masculinity lead many men to stay silent, making their struggles feel invisible.
This post shines a light on some of the tactics female abusers may use against men, including emotional manipulation, gaslighting, and control. These behaviors can be subtle and confusing, especially because even healthy, loving partners may occasionally lash out in ways that resemble these patterns. It’s important to remember that abuse is about persistent patterns of behavior designed to exert power and control over another person.
We all have the capacity to act in hurtful ways from time to time, but recognizing these patterns is key to identifying abuse and creating healthier relationships. Let’s break the silence, challenge stereotypes, and make space for men’s experiences to be heard.
If you are in Plymouth, Northville, Livonia, Canton, or any of the other surrounding communities, reach out to schedule today.
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The cognitive dissonance of being with a narcissist is overwhelming—how do you reconcile the loving, charming version of them with the cruel, abusive side? Both the good and bad memories keep you stuck, contributing to the trauma. This is why working with a therapist who specializes in the dark triad is so important. They can provide the psychoeducation you need to truly understand narcissistic behaviors and help you make sense of your experience. You deserve to leave therapy feeling like an expert in narcissism—and empowered to heal.
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If you’ve been in a relationship with an emotionally abusive partner, you know how devastating and confusing it can be. The cycle often begins with love bombing. You think you’ve found your soulmate—someone who makes you feel special, interesting, and deeply understood. But over time, that idealized love turns into devaluation. The once-loving partner becomes critical, distant, and irritable.
You might find yourself in circular arguments that leave you questioning your sanity. You walk on eggshells, desperately trying to regain their approval, as they convince you that you are the problem. The result? A profound sense of worthlessness and self-doubt. For many, this experience becomes all-consuming, leaving emotional scars that are difficult to heal without professional support.
If this describes your experience, finding a therapist who specializes in recovery from abusive relationships with narcissists and sociopaths can be a life-changing step toward healing. These emotionally abusive relationships often involve individuals with high levels of narcissistic, sociopathic, or Machiavellian traits—collectively known as the dark triad.
The tactics used in such relationships, like intermittent reinforcement, create a cycle of addiction in the brain. Each act of kindness or affection becomes a powerful hook, keeping you trapped in the relationship despite the pain. While traditional domestic violence models focus on physical abuse, the subtle psychological manipulation in these relationships can go unrecognized.
Jessica Payne, MA, LPC specializes in recovery from narcissistic abuse and emotional manipulation who understands the unique dynamics of these relationships. She has extensively studied these subtle forms of abuse and their long-term effects, such as:
Trauma responses, including fight, flight, freeze, or fawn (4F responses).
Cognitive dissonance, which makes it difficult to reconcile the abuse with the love you felt.
Loss of self-trust and difficulty forming healthy connections.
A specialized therapist can help you rebuild trust in yourself, develop healthy boundaries, and regain confidence in your ability to recognize red flags and choose healthier relationships in the future.
Pschoeducation so that you walk away feeling like you have a nuanced understanding of personality disorders and the cycle of manipulation and abuse that you went through. You will not only be able to identify the specific tactics abusers use by name, you will be able to confidently identify problematic behaviors early on in future relationships.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) techniques to challenge distorted beliefs created by the abuse and reframe your thoughts.
Trauma-informed approaches to process the emotional pain and identify how past experiences with toxic relationships, bullying, or neglect influence your current struggles.
Communication skills training to help you navigate relationships more effectively.
Solution-Focused Therapy to set achievable goals for reclaiming your identity and moving forward with confidence.
Motivational interviewing to help you clarify your values and priorities as you rebuild your life.
The aftermath of such relationships can feel isolating and overwhelming. Survivors frequently vow to avoid anything remotely resembling the pain they experienced, yet rebuilding confidence in their judgment and relationship skills can feel like an insurmountable task.
Recognize and label the abuse you endured.
Resolve the cognitive dissonance keeping you stuck.
Rebuild your self-esteem and confidence.
Navigate co-parenting challenges or lingering contact with an abusive ex.
Learn to identify toxic dynamics and avoid future harmful relationships.
Healing from a psychologically abusive relationship with a narcissist or sociopath is a journey, but you don’t have to do it alone. If you’re in the Plymouth, Michigan area and looking for a therapist who understands the complexities of narcissistic abuse recovery, reach out today. The right therapist can help you rediscover your worth, rebuild trust in yourself, and reclaim your life.
Call or text: (734) 386-0238
Email: jessica@indigonorthllc.com
Have you ever wanted to see a specific therapist just to find out that they aren’t contracted with your insurance plan? You may actually be able to get reimbursed if you have out of network benefits.
*contact your insurance company to find out whether you have out of network coverage. You will likely pay less for therapy if you choose an in network provider, but if there’s a specific provider who you feel might be a good fit for you who doesn’t accept your plan, it may be worth it to look into out of network reimbursement.
Seeking therapy is an investment in one's mental well-being, and for those with out-of-network insurance coverage, understanding the reimbursement process is essential. While out-of-network services don't have the direct billing convenience of in-network options, they offer flexibility and choice. Here's a brief overview of how out-of-network insurance reimbursement works in therapy:
Selecting a Therapist:
When choosing an out-of-network therapist, individuals have the advantage of selecting a professional who resonates with their needs and preferences, regardless of network constraints.
Payment at the Time of Service:
With out-of-network services, clients often pay the therapist's fee directly at the time of the session. Many therapists accept various payment methods, such as credit cards or checks.
Issuing an Invoice:
After the session, the therapist provides the client with an invoice, often referred to as a "superbill." This document contains crucial information required for insurance reimbursement, including session dates, service codes, diagnosis, and provider information.
Submitting to Insurance:
The client submits the superbill to their insurance company for reimbursement. This process varies depending on the insurer. Some companies offer online submission, while others require mailing.
Reimbursement Amount:
The reimbursement amount depends on the insurance plan. Typically, it's a percentage of the therapist's fee after deductibles have been met. It's crucial to review the insurance policy to understand the reimbursement percentage and any limits.
Timeline and Process:
The timeline for reimbursement varies, and clients may need to wait a few weeks to receive payment. Some insurers may also require additional documentation or clarification from the therapist.
Out-of-Pocket Costs:
Clients should be aware of their out-of-pocket costs, including the therapist's fee and any deductible amounts. Keeping track of expenses is important for budgeting and managing insurance claims.
Communication with the Therapist:
Maintaining open communication with the therapist throughout the process is beneficial. They can provide guidance on preparing the superbill, answer questions, and offer any necessary assistance.
While navigating out-of-network insurance reimbursement might require more effort on the client's part, the ability to choose the therapist who aligns with their needs can outweigh the administrative aspects. It's advisable to contact the insurance company to understand their specific reimbursement procedures and coverage details.
As individuals prioritize their mental health, understanding the ins and outs of out-of-network insurance reimbursement empowers them to make informed decisions about therapy and financial matters.
The aftermath of sexual assault leaves survivors grappling with profound emotional and psychological challenges. During this critical period, seeking professional support becomes paramount for healing and recovery. Trauma-informed counseling plays a pivotal role in providing survivors with the tailored care and understanding they need to navigate the path to healing and resilience.
Understanding Trauma-Informed Counseling:
Trauma-informed counseling is a specialized therapeutic approach that acknowledges the deep impact of trauma on survivors' well-being. Its primary focus is to create a secure, empowering, and empathetic space where survivors can share their experiences, process their emotions, and work through the complexities that follow sexual assault. Each survivor's journey is unique, and trauma-informed counseling recognizes this diversity, offering personalized guidance on the path to healing.
Key Elements of Trauma-Informed Counseling:
Safety and Trust: Establishing a safe and trusting environment is paramount in trauma-informed counseling. Survivors need assurance that their emotions and experiences will be treated with respect and confidentiality.
Empowerment through Meaning: Trauma-informed counseling helps survivors find meaning in the aftermath of unimaginably horrendous events. This process of deriving purpose from adversity can foster resilience and aid in their survival journey.
Coping Strategies: Survivors are equipped with effective coping strategies to manage triggers and emotional responses. Learning these tools empowers them to regain a sense of control over their emotions.
Narrative Empowerment: Taking charge of one's narrative is a crucial aspect of healing. Trauma-informed counseling emphasizes that survivors have the power to shape their own stories and determine their path forward.
Recognizing Resilience: Trauma-informed counseling spotlights survivors' innate resilience, encouraging them to draw strength from within and tap into their ability to endure and overcome.
Benefits of Trauma-Informed Counseling:
Reduces Re-Traumatization: Trauma-informed counselors are trained to minimize the risk of re-traumatization, ensuring that the counseling process is not retraumatizing and promotes healing.
Empowers Coping Skills: Survivors learn healthy coping mechanisms to manage triggers, anxiety, and other emotional responses triggered by the trauma.
Restores Self-Esteem: Trauma-informed counseling aims to rebuild survivors' self-esteem and self-worth, which may have been eroded by the assault.
Promotes Resilience: By recognizing and fostering survivors' innate resilience, trauma-informed counseling helps them regain a sense of control and strength.
Healing after sexual assault is a profound and challenging journey. Trauma-informed counseling provides survivors with the specialized care they need to rebuild their lives and move forward. By creating a safe, empowering, and respectful environment, trauma-informed counselors facilitate the process of healing, offering survivors the tools to reclaim their lives and rewrite their narratives. If you or someone you know is a survivor of sexual assault, seeking trauma-informed counseling can be a crucial step towards regaining a sense of well-being and empowerment.
When most of us think of abuse, our minds gravitate towards physical domestic violence. We think of a physically dominant abuser (usually a man, but not always) towering over a terrified woman and assailing her with his raised fists. We think of a person so unable to control his anger that the most trivial perceived slight unleashes an onslaught of physical fury. There is another less obvious form of abuse that can be equally as damaging though - emotional abuse. Emotional abuse tends to be insidious in nature. Unlike physical abuse, emotional abuse operates in subtle ways, making it difficult for victims to identify. Unfortunately, this often leads to invalidation from friends and family members who lack knowledge about the dynamics of emotionally abusive relationships.
Nearly half of all people will experience some form of emotional abuse in a romantic relationship at some point in their lives. Psychological abuse is a very strong predictor of PTSD-like symptoms in women. Approximately 70% of women who endure emotional abuse in a romantic relationship subsequently develop symptoms of PTSD.
Emotional/psychological abuse comes in many different forms. Here are a few of them.
Gaslighting - This a is a common buzzword right now, but you may not know exactly what it looks/sounds like. Gaslighting involves an abuser denying a victim’s perception of reality in order to destabilize them psychologically. It can have devastating effects on a person’s self-esteem and ability to trust their instincts. Gaslighting can look like an outright denial of events, deliberate confusion tactics, invalidation/minimization of a victim’s feelings, concerns, and thoughts, or deliberately shifting focus onto a different topic that portrays the victim as being in the wrong.
Blackmailing - Abusers may resort to threatening to expose private information to employers, friends, or family members as a means of control, jeopardizing the victim's livelihood and reputation.
Using Children as Leverage - This particularly cruel form of psychological warfare is commonly employed by abusers who are high in narcissistic or sociopathic traits. These abusers may attempt to take custody from the victim or attempt to turn children against her.
Economic Abuse - This form of abuse involves denying a victim access to money, preventing her from obtaining a job, or relentlessly monitoring her spending habits.
Harsh Criticism - An abuser may attempt to control a victim by undermining her self-esteem. This can come in overt forms like name-calling, swearing, or mocking the victim. It can also be much more subtle. The abuser may try to pass his criticism off as love by saying things like, “I am only telling you this because I love you,” or “I’m the only person who loves you enough to tell you the truth.” He might insult the victim’s weight, physical appearance, or intelligence.
Anger as Control - An abuser may use disapproval and simmering rage as a means to control his victim. A victim might experience this type of abuse as a quiet tension that builds up or is used against them when they do not comply with the abuser’s demands.
Dangling the Carrot - This involves a promise of kindness or favor that is always out of reach. It sounds like, “I would be willing to marry you if you were better in xyz way,” or “If you would just behave better, you could have the old me back!” Abusers typically love-bomb their victims at the beginning of the relationship, so that manufactured, idyllic romantic phase is often held out as something just out of the victim’s reach. The important thing to remember with this kind of abuse is that the goal post will always keep moving. This is by design. Abusers use this to degrade a victim’s self-esteem and keep her trapped in a never ending cycle of working for affection.
Isolation - Abusers will often attempt to isolate their victims from family members and other loved ones. This may look like excessive jealousy, triangulation, or deliberately causing tension with important others in the victim’s life. The abuser may also bombard the victim with texts/calls while she is out with friends in order to create anxiety anytime she chooses to spend time with another person.
Giving the Cold Shoulder - The abuser may give the silent treatment, disappear from contact for days at a time, or behave in other ways that feel passive-aggressive.
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If you or someone you know are experiencing emotional abuse, help is available. Working with a counselor knowledgeable about abuse, dark triad traits, and trauma recovery can help you to heal from abuse and move forward. If you are in immediate danger, you can reach out 24/7 to the following resources:
First Step - Wayne County, MI
Haven - Oakland County Michigan
National Domestic Violence Hotline
*The use of male or female pronouns in this article is not meant to stigmatize a certain group or over-generalize. It is simply for the sake of simplicity since women are the victims in 85-95% of reported cases of domestic violence. Men and non-binary individuals can also be victims of abuse. Abusers, likewise, can be male, female, or non-binary.
Written by: Jessica Payne, MA, LPC, CCTP